Our job and our number one concern is making sure that you receive the legal representation you merit in order to protect your assets and align you with a fulfilling future post-divorce. In order to do so, we handle the nitty-gritty details of the divorce settlement so that you can focus on your own mental, emotional, and physical wellness and navigate this transition with strength and grace.
We pledge that we will be by your side throughout the entirety of the divorce proceedings. Here are some ways that you can begin to orient yourself with your future while we go to work for you and your sovereign rights.
It is often said that grief comes in waves and cycles. When you are going through the process of divorce, it is important to honor the transition as the death of your marriage and former life with another person. Regardless of the current dynamics of the partnership and the reasons for divorce, it is ok to grieve the end of a dream and a life that you shared with your spouse. You will likely go through moments in which you are in denial, or angry, or sad throughout the process. One of the best ways you can take care of yourself at this time is to allow whatever emotional experiences arise and tend to them as a mother would a child, without acting out the ideas you have when you are feeling these ways. It’s a wise time to remember the saying, don’t believe everything you think, and instead patiently hold space for a caterpillar becoming a butterfly.
In order to evade disease of the body and bring it into higher harmony, consider your thoughts, emotions, and physical body sensations as elements. When you are angry, you are within the element of fire. What are some activities and foods you could use to cool your fire down and ground it? When you are overwhelmed with exhausted sadness, you are within water. How could you lighten or energize yourself, and what grounding or lightening foods could you incorporate into your day to bring balance? The ancient Indian system of Ayurveda is a brilliant support for creating a life of balance and harmony from the inside out.
Nature truly is our Mother. The healing vibrations of the natural world within which we live can be one of the most potent salves for our healing hearts and minds at this time. Get your shoes off and walk barefoot on the grass as often as possible. Sit and watch the birds, or rest your back against the trunk of a tree while you read. Or meditate. Listen to the wisdom of Nature, and you will find your problems put into perspective and your hope amplified.
As noted before, during emotional times, we often cope in order to deal with our feelings. One of the ways we cope is by eating and drinking unhealthy foods and beverages. One way to mitigate this tendency is to consider that your pain – in all of its forms – at this time is a sick young child that has lost their way, and you are responsible for providing it nourishment so that it can merge back into integration with your healthier parts. Eat the whole rainbow, upping your intake of organic fruits and vegetables, and drink lots of water to stay hydrated. What we put in our bodies affects the balance of our minds as well.
Each day, you are one step closer to the life of your true dreams. With patience and steady orientation, you will cross the threshold into your new life healed and whole.
At The Montanari Law Group, our team of divorce attorneys supports our clients in Paterson, Hawthorne, Wayne, and across Northern New Jersey in resolving divorce proceedings fairly and rapidly.
To schedule a confidential consultation regarding your divorce, please don’t hesitate to fill out our online form or give us a call through our Little Falls office today at 973-233-4396 for a free consultation.